It’s an election year and a woman is running for president of the United States. It’s an exciting time and a very hot topic for discussion. While we certainly don’t want to talk about politics (you can save that for your next family gathering), we do think, since there is so much talk about how women treat or judge each other, that it’s time that women ask themselves, “Am I being the best possible girlfriend I can be to my friends?”
Good girlfriends don’t let jealousy overtake them. There’s more than enough happiness to go around in this world. But you’re human. It is understandable that if something great happens for your dearest friend, you feel a pang of jealousy. What should you do about it? Admit it. Give voice to it. Often as soon as you do that, that jealous feeling will disappear. So when your friend says, “I got a promotion and I’m going to Hawaii!” You say, “I’m so jealous! I want a promotion and I want to go to Hawaii! But I’m so happy for you.” And you know what? You probably will be (very genuinely happy for your friend’s good fortune), because you got the other (jealousy) stuff out of the way first.
Good girlfriends don’t gossip about their good friends to other good friends. There’s a reason the expression, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” exists. Some people believe that what you say about other people is actually a reflection of what you think about yourself. The bottom line is that you don’t want someone gossiping negatively about you. So why should you do the same about other people? There are so many other things you could be talking about.
Good girlfriends understand that a little goes a long way. It takes so little to be a thoughtful person who goes above and beyond. Does your friend have an important job interview, meeting, doctor’s appointment or family commitment? Schedule a little reminder for yourself in your phone or planner and give your friend a shout out with a phone call or text prior to and let her know you’re thinking of her.
Good girlfriends know how to listen. We live in a distracted world where people so rarely take the time to stop, hear and listen. Being in the moment and being present for your friend when she needs you are huge. Knowing how to listen doesn’t mean giving advice or telling someone what to do. It’s simply being there.
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